Sex, Babies and Fertility. Oh my!

I was so flattered to be approached by Becky Miller of PCOS Crown to write an article for her followers.  This is a special group of women dealing with PCOS and fertility issues.  I’ve included the article along with a link to her newsletter.  Should you know anyone suffering from PCOS, Becky’s your go-to-girl.

I would love to share my article with you, and if you enjoy my rantings, please share this with a friend.

Love & Peace

Livin’ the Sexy Life!

So you’ve been pronounced husband and wife, what next?  Be fruitful and multiply?  Yes!  This is where the fun begins.  Isn’t it amazing that God, creator of the universe, gave us such an amazing gift?  The gift of sexual pleasure isn’t talked about nearly enough.  People are embarrassed and ashamed because the media has mucked it up and made sex trashy.  I’m here to tell you that it is our God given right, as women, to experience complete sexual freedom with our husbands.  Can you imagine how liberated you would feel if you were free from your past hurts, habits and hang-ups where sex is concerned?  It’s time for a revolution.  A sexual revolution!  As a health and transformational coach, I teach women how to have an affair, with their husbands of course, because when life gets in the way, sex is the last thing on your mind.

As a mother and wife, I can tell you from experience that a relationship without intimacy is destined to fail.  You need to clear your mind of baby cribs and baby bibs for the night and just love your husband for who he is (not just for the baby he can give you).  Baby fever can be damaging to your relationship if you’re not careful, because when sex is not going to result in a little bundle of joy, it can feel like a waste of time for women who are dealing with fertility issues.  I’ve been guilty of it too.  Sex seems much more noble when there is a purpose behind it.  “We’re making a baby!” sounds prettier than “We just want to have sex all the time because we’re CRAZY about each other!”  It makes me laugh, but it’s true.  Sex and babies are SO disconnected in our society, and it doesn’t make much sense to me. 

So what can you do?  You can start by having an affair with your husband.  I’m talking about crazy, passionate sex that will make his toes curl!  Do you remember what those first dates were like?  During that time when you believed that anything was possible, and you knew that this was the man you wanted to spend your life with (no matter what)?  I challenge you to harness that feeling and use it to your advantage.  The next step would be to clear out your head trash about what sex is.  Sex is a beautiful thing that was meant to be enjoyed between a husband and wife, and there’s no shame in that.  Do you remember all the stories your parents told you about how sex was bad or nasty when you were a little girl?  I sure do.  You’re a sexy and amazing woman now.  It’s time to understand that this was done in love.  Now it’s time to create your own beliefs about sex.  How can you honor God in your marriage and in your bed (or car if you’re feeling adventurous)?  I would love for you to respond to let us know your plan.  Get crazy and have fun!  Your husband is a gift to you, and you are a gift to your husband.  That’s a beautiful thing.


Cynthia Jordan

Hot Chicks and Photo-Shoots!

ImageLast week was a week of change, growth, discomfort and transformation as I headed to Los Angeles for a much anticipated health coach retreat.  Hubby and I have made a HUGE investment into my coaching business, and this was all part of the experience.  As a member of an elite group of coaches, myself and 33 other brave women followed our mentors into the unknown.

As a transformational coach, I’m all for pushing others out of their comfort zone, and I’m happy to report that I’ve received a healthy dose of my own medicine.  The experience of a full makeover and photo-shoot would make most girls swoon, but not me.  I was so afraid of what I would see in those photos that I actually tried to catch a virus before my travel date just so I could stay in my comfort zone.  It’s no surprise that I’ve dealt with negative body image, eating disorders and a whole lot of ugly self talk over the years.  The Spotlight program that I’m currently enrolled in was just what the doctor ordered.  No hiding allowed.  It’s time to SHINE!

Change happens when we become uncomfortable, and let me tell you, I was pretty uncomfortable.  Dresses, high-heels,  tons of hairspray and makeup were all the things I had feared.  Looking back, I can’t believe how silly I was.  We had a fashion consultant dressing us up, amazing photographers, talented makeup artists and hair stylists that I would have loved to kidnap.  I can’t wait to share the professional photos with you.  The photographer said my photos were stunning, a little part of me (the critical part) finds that hard to believe, and I can’t wait to see for myself.

I’ve learned some valuable lesson this week, and they apply to you too.

*Don’t be a chicken
*Allow yourself to be pushed to the point of discomfort
*Try something new
*Believe others when they tell you that you’re beautiful

I’m forever changed, and I love who I have become.